"To reframe, then, means to change the conceptual and/or emotional setting or viewpoint in relation to which a situation is experienced and to place it in another frame which fits the 'facts' of the same concrete situation equally well or even better, and thereby changing its entire meaning."
- Watzlawick, Weakland and Fisch
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Me exploring in Nayli's bedroom: Oh, I love your collection of tiny blank books. I'm obsessed too. But I never know what to do with mine. What do you write in yours?
Nayli: Nothing. I don't write in them. I just collect them.
Me: *mind blown*
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In an instant, my wise teenage Malaysian-hostess-in-Cuba changed my life.
No longer do I feel a scrap of guilt over my stockpile of unused journals and tiny baby notebooks. They are my collection and I am set free to enjoy them just as they are - empty, pure and clean.
I feel entirely liberated.
And what's more, I can't think of single reason why I shouldn't be adding new treasures to my collection on a regular basis.
So today, I did just that.
Thank you, Nayli, for teaching me the gentle art of reframing.
And thank you, Target, for satisfying my never-ending desire to collect.
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For a full tour of Nayli's collections read this:
Nayli's Bedroom
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Check out more stories about my once-in-a-lifetime trip to Cuba and my wonderful friends who lived there:
I Will Bake You A Pie
Cuban Makan
Cuban Economics
El Malecon Cloudburst
A La Playa
Creepy Cuban Kudzu
Plaza De La Revolucion
Old Havana
Poolside in Havana
A Cuban Sunset Story
Sunset Chasers, Cuban Edition
The Puppy At The Castle
Old Havana On The Eve Of Fidel's Birthday
An ASEAN Celebration
Nayli's Bedroom
Varadero, Cuba
Winding Down
Dear Cuba
Aqil's Chicken
The Gentle Art Of Reframing
My Cuban Home
Tickled Pink
Full Circle
Chicken Drumsticks
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